By: Stefanie Safran
With the recent news of Kris and Bruce
Jenner's split, how much balance do you have in your life?
In the wake of the Kris and Bruce
Jenner split, some people may be surprised, while others not so surprised.
While we cannot be sure of what exactly caused the split, it is obvious that
Kris took her career as “momager” and reality star pretty seriously. On their
show Keeping up with the Kardashians, Kris is seen in an almost constant state
of work. Even when she was at home, she was taking calls related to work. It
would not be surprising if Kris’ career took a toll on the marriage,
which leads us to ask “what are the costs of putting a career over a
relationship and how do you prevent it from pushing people apart?”
In order to balance out your life, you need to be realistic about your habits.
1. You’ve heard it before, relationships are
about compromises. You do not have to give up the happiness and
fulfillment your career gives you, but devote some of that passion into your love life
as well. Both your love life and career will thrive if you create the ideal
balance between the two.
2. Pay close attention to the ways you may be neglecting your
relationships for work. Maybe it would be more beneficial to
put off that call in order to go on a walk with your partner. You may not
realize how much your work life is interfering with your love life, especially
since we all seem to be on call 24/7 with our cell phones following our every
move.
3. Have your partner tell you
when they feel you are neglecting them. If
you have someone point out specific instances, you will be able to correct the
behavior and ask for your needs to be met as well.
There is nothing inherently wrong with being career driven; in fact many people
find that attractive. It shows you have ambition and that you know what you
want out of life. The problem occurs when you put so much effort into your work
that it takes away from the amount of effort you can put into your
relationship.
Here
are some tips to minimize this:
1. Take time each day to ask
your partner how they their day was. Turn all phones and electronics OFF.
An ideal time to do this is over dinner. Making this a habit will help you feel
connected.
2. Send a text, email or old
fashioned phone call during your day. Even
if you are having a super busy day at work, you still have time to send a quick
message that lets them know you are thinking of them. Your work doesn’t love
you in the way your partner does.
3. When you are spending time
with your significant other, make sure you are paying attention to them. If you go on a vacation, make sure to
really unplug. Don’t let work distract you by constantly checking your email.
The time spent together will be more meaningful and you’ll connect on a deeper
level without the distractions.
At the end of the day, imagine your life without your partner! To try and find
someone new who loves you unconditionally, flaws and all, is hard work,
sometimes harder than a job!
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