By: Ashley Crouch
We’ve been called pre-adults, emerging adults, millennials, the defining decade and the lost decade. We graduated during the worst economy in recent memory and pulled ourselves up by our bootstraps to recover what was lost. We’ve been told 80% of life’s most significant events take place by age 35, but listened to other 20-somethings daydream about “taking some time off,” presumably to spend more time gaming. We have an intuitive sense that the foundation we lay now will continue to carry us throughout life. We’ve seen lists on “20 Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make” go viral and helped make it happen. One thing is clear: we’re searching for answers on how to make sense of this messy life we’re leading. I know, because this is my generation.
A few months ago, I spent an embarrassing number of days
subsisting on ramen and canned beans. Working from a “home office” translated
to “homebound,” because who has money for a $14 cocktail from the nearby dive
bar? My cupboard resembled Old Mother Hubbard’s — read: bare –
and going to a thrift shop transitioned from a hobby to a verb:
“thrift-shopping.” I could feel the judgment vibes from everyone who wrote me
“We believe in you!” cards for graduation.
The truth is, my 20-something experience isn’t so unusual.
So, I turned to some established success stories and carefully curated their
secrets. If you spend sleepless nights wondering whether you’re on the brink of
the next big thing or teetering dangerously close to spending the rest of your
life in your parents’ basement, read on. Here’s what those who have gone before
(and lived to tell the tale) have to say about 20 tips to make the most of
your 20s.
1. Don’t be afraid to jump at
an opportunity. “In your 20s, you’re still early in your
career and life, so you not only have less serious obligations (mortgage,
family), but you also aren’t entrenched in your work networks and what you’ve
built as your career story. That’s not to say to jump willy-nilly, but when an
opportunity presents itself that seems really unique or interesting, go for it!
As someone who started in accounting, then went to investing, and am now in
media, you never know where your experiences will lead you.” – Kara Eschbach,
Co-Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Verily Magazine
2. Don’t waste your time in a
job you hate. ”Find a job that you’re excited to wake up and go to every
morning. And if you can, save a little money! Having a little financial freedom
will allow you more room to pursue your passions freely.” – Chelsea Brownridge,
Co-Director and COO, Ignite Good
3. Stop complaining. “You
are ultimately responsible for your own happiness and success. If there is
something you see wrong in the world, you can do something about it!” – Maurya
Couvares, Founder, ScriptEd
4. Pick up the phone and make a
cold call. “Don’t buy into what others may prescribe for you; go after your
passions. Don’t be afraid to make that cold call, speak up in a meeting, or try
something that scares you every now and then. Ask for what you want and you
will get there a lot sooner than you think! There are no limits to what you can
accomplish.” – Danielle Deabler, NPR, creator of “Generation Listen”
5. Write down your
non-negotiables. “Your 20s are a time to be selfish and to
figure yourself out, what you like and more importantly what you are not
willing to tolerate. Figuring out your non-negotiables is a must to happiness
in the personal and professional areas of your life.” – Rhoda Tamakloe, Senior
Program Coordinator, Kaplan Educational Foundation.
6. Follow through. “Set
goals each month and meet them.” Enough said. – Penelope Trunk, renowned career
coach, author, entrepreneur from Brazen Careerist, blogs atPenelope Trunk
7. Be revolutionary. “Don’t
be afraid to be radical in thought or action. This is your time be in that
state of mind. Throughout history, progress has been led by young folks who
pushed the boundaries of the acceptable (just check out how old the
Founding Fathers were). Promise, you can do that while still taking full
advantage of Netflix unlimited instant streaming.” – Taylor Jo Isenberg,
National Director, Roosevelt Institute | Campus Network
8. Do that thing you’re afraid
of. “If you’re scared of heights, skydive. If you’re scared of
public speaking, join the Toastmasters Club. If you’re scared of failure, do
something you know you aren’t good at, in front of people, if at all possible.
Facing small fears will make you a bolder and braver person in all other
aspects of your life and the big scary decisions – moving across the country,
quitting your job, starting your own company – won’t seem so scary.” – Rachel
Hurley, Independent Consultant
9. Be willing to embarrass
yourself. “The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in
the same space. If you’re not willing to be embarrassed, you’re not willing to
be great. The biggest risk of our twenties would be never taking any risks at
all.” – Paul Angone, author of 101 Secrets for your Twenties, founder
of AllGroanUp.com
10. Accept failure. “The
number one thing I learned about how to make the most of your 20s was to accept
failure and welcome it as the stepping stone success. Fortunately, I had many
opportunities in my 20s to learn this lesson. My later success would not have
been possible without learning from these early failures. At the time I
wouldn’t have minded fewer failures, but they’re not only part of life, they’re
a valuable part of life.” – Arianna Huffington, author, Chair, President and
Editor-in-Chief of Huffington Post
11. Stop talking and start
listening. “Our default during this time can sometimes to be to assume we
know most of the answers. Even if you do, the outlook, perspective, vantage
point (right or wrong) of another will expand your horizon and context. Go into
everything with a humble assumption that you can learn something from every
single person in the room, then listen first and ask questions after.” – Azita
Ardakani, Founder, LoveSocial
12. Look ahead. “Being
behind isn’t about comparing yourself to other people. You’re behind in your
20s if you can’t get the life you want for yourself by your 30s or 40s. Dare to
be intentional with your life, and to be real with yourself about what you
think you may want in 10 years. If that’s too scary, ask this question: If
I keep living my life exactly as I am now, do I like where I’ll be in five
years? If not, then something needs to change because that’s
where you’re on track to wind up.” - Meg Jay, clinical psychologist and
author of The Defining Decade: Why Your 20s Matter – and How to Make the
Most of Them Now
13. Make time to stop and
reflect. “Reflecting will allow you to see the signs that the world is
giving you about your purpose. Once you find that purpose, jump at every
opportunity to live for your purpose. And hold on tight because it’s going to
be a bumpy ride.” – Rey Faustino, CEO and Founder, One Degree
14. Don’t take yourself too
seriously. ”I think the best way to make the most of your 20s is to
not waste time being anxious. I had so many new experiences in my 20s, both
personally and professionally. I was able to enjoy myself the most when I
didn’t let nerves get in the way. Most of the stuff I was worried about never
happened anyway!” – Anya Wallach, Producer, The Random Farms Kids’ Theater
15. Discover your purpose and
origin. “If you believe in a Creator, then know your Creator in order to
discover your Created Purpose. If you don’t believe in a Creator, then believe
there’s a legitimate reason why you were put on the planet. That gives you
genuine purpose. And purpose is a fuel that’s non-toxic to yourself and
others.” – Alice Rhee, two-time Emmy winning TV producer, Senior
Producer, PostTV
16. Choose your friends
wisely. “The biggest lesson I learned in my twenties was to look around
at the people I was hanging out with. Are they using their time and talents
wisely? Have they decided what and who they want to be in life? Your circle of
influence defines who you are.” – Amy Palmer, multiple Emmy-nominated TV host,
Founder & CEO ofPowerwomenTV
17. Know that you’re more than
your job. “In your 20s, it’s easy to rush through life to get as much as
you can as quickly as possible. We like to push themselves to the limit, throw
ourselves in the fire and never think we are never going to get burnt. But we
do. Instead, think about what makes you happy. You are more than your job. You
are a multi-faceted person. Slow down, breathe, and take the time to realize
you can create your own happiness in your life, and that doesn’t just mean in
your job.” – Amanda Slavin, CEO & Founder, Catalyst Creativ
18. Be honest. “I
learned to make the most of my 20s by being honest with myself, honest with my
relationships, and honest with how I see myself in society. This alone has
created an unequivocal sense of freedom.” – Tinia Pina, Founder and
CEO, Re-Nuble
19. Realize that your 20s are
going to fly by. “No joke. The time is going to pass
anyway. You’ll be 30 before you know it. And when you wake up 30, the only
question will be whether you gave it your all. Just go for it! You might fail,
but at least you had the guts to try. If there’s something you want to do, then
just go do it! Don’t wait.” – Gene Gurkoff, Founder, Charity Miles
20. Don’t rush. “So
many people in their 20s are in a hurry to get to where they want to be:
graduated, established, promoted, in love. Your 20s are a time where it is ok
to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Don’t be in a rush to be who
you are going to be. Just enjoy being who you are.” – Alicia Quarles, New York
Correspondent, E! News
Remember, YOLO!
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