Irrespective of the dictums outlined
in religious texts and principles about the importance of marriage; the
decision whether to go in for one or to remain single is essentially personal
in nature where the questions of scriptures or rules of theologians should not come
into play. This is particularly true of the current situation marked by
extremes of stress, strain and struggle; in spite of all its techno savvy
benefits. Well I think people stay single for the following reasons:
1. CAREER: People with a sharp or obsessive focus on
career and personal growth often prefer staying single rather than bracing up
to the duties and obligations of marriage. Paucity of time and personal
inability to share and care keep them away from relationships and marriage.
2. SELF CHOICE: Other than social and economic factors,
there are people who preferred singularity over marital status on account of
their lack of commitment. Rather than going for the hassles of serious
relationships leading to marriage or live in stands, certain carefree and happy
go lucky individuals choose to remain single.
3. SELFISHNESS: It is true that humans, a part of the
civilized society long for and cherish freedom. But it is equally important to
note that there are ones including both men and women who cherish freedom to
the point of selfishness. It is important or rather imperative that they stay
single on account of their inflexibility and ill adjustability to come around
to share and care for others. So the inability to compromise and need for
absolute freedom from interference or disciplining goad people to stay single.
4. FINANCE: Just as inability to share emotionally can be
problematic for some, leading them to the choice of singularity; likewise
inability to share financially can be a possible reason. With over magnified
stories of spouses nagging for money and possession doing the rounds; the
choice of better management of financial prospects keep people specially men
away from marriage.
5. EGO: People staunchly egoistical without the ability
to change or modify often choose to remain single. With their all encompassing
ego being predominantly effective, such folks are unable to come around or
modify to the ways of better halves or partners.
6. FEAR: Marriages leading to divorce or relationships
leading to break ups is one of the well trodden phenomenon. With far reaching
repercussions any form of break up or separation can turn out to be
tremendously heart wrenching. If one is not into a relationship of the serious
order, one need not worry or anticipate such a turn of event. Thus fear of
separation or one exposed to too many separations in the formative years of
childhood may give way to fears and mental blocks about marriage.
Sometimes staying single over a long period of time on
account of some genuine issues of financial concern helps one to pick on the
right partner or soul mate. Religious devotion may also draw an individual into
a life of chastity and celibacy. Irrespective of your status chosen, there are
some basic issues and principles of the civilized society to abide by.
Regardless of the fact whether one is single or otherwise; we are all expected
to maintain the minimum standards of decency and self control.
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