Friday, 24 May 2013

Abortion and the Woman




Omono grew up in a loving home with two parents. People who knew her would have said she was an overachiever, one of those "Most Likely to Succeed" types. She was one of the many Nigerians in her school to receive scholarships to attend the University. Then she met a man---an older man who stole her heart and her virginity.


Pregnant at 18, she made the choice to have an abortion. Unfortunately, Omono remained in sin, and by the time she was in her mid-20s, had four more abortions. Now 30 years old with two kids, Omono lives with an ache in her heart at the unnecessary loss of the other children by her choice to abort them.


"Having children made me realize the ultimate value of life beyond my selfish motivations of what I felt life was about," Omono told me. "After having my first child I realized or began to feel the other children I once had the opportunity to have were still my children. I have dealt with a greater sense of regret and conviction after having children. I have realized the gift it is to be chosen by God to nurture and raise the seeds he plants, his children, whether they were conceived by sin and lust or by love."



She made the decisions to abort to "save a relationship [with her boyfriend] for four of them and the fifth due to finances and fear." Omono now believes that abortion is wrong. She shared through tears:

"It is a weird thing, abortion. It is wrong in the sense that someone would even have the idea to create such a procedure to begin with. It is wrong to think that someone wouldn't take responsibility for their actions. It is wrong that young men don't understand the effect it has on the young woman or girl who lies in the cold, cold, cold room with a group of other woman to ultimately remove a child as if it is a parasite. It's heavy."

 Omono is now on a journey to understand God's forgiveness of sins through Christ's sacrificial death on the Cross.


"I repeatedly decided to have abortions because I wasn't serving the good will of my Lord, I was blindly living in the world and serving people and relationships, dreams that weren't ever fully met anyway due to conviction and self doubt. I still have a looming feeling of guilt from time to time and am still on a journey to understand God's love for me so that I understand Christ's sacrifice for these sins I have committed."


No Sin Too Great

If you are among the thousands of women who have chosen to abort your child, I want to share God's grace with you. John Piper has helpfully and powerfully addressed the topic of race and abortion. Hear this word for you:

And lest anyone think that you are simply too sinful---that there have been too many sins for too long---listen to the way the great sinner, the apostle Paul, speaks to you---directly to you. This is 1 Timothy 1:15-16: "Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost. But I received mercy for this reason, that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display his perfect patience as an example to those who were to believe in him for eternal life." In other words, if God can save me, the foremost (he was a murdering Christian-hater), then he can save anyone who comes to him. "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13).

There is forgiveness in Christ. If you are convicted of your sin, confess it and ask God to forgive you. Then walk in that forgiveness in the light (Ephesians 5:8-11) and speak with a pastor or Christian counselor to assist you further.

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*Omono is not the interviewee's real name. Her first and last name has been concealed to protect the identity of her children and the men involved in the circumstances above.


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