Tuesday, 21 January 2014

MAKE UP YOUR MIND (SERIES 1)

By: Ada
                                
The cool quiet weather, lovely breeze, the sound of the waves, a complete serene environment, bottle of red wine , sumptuous meal for two and a good looking man beside me. How romantic! You might feel it’s a date for two but it’s not. I really can’t say that I am sad and I really don’t know what to tag this as but whatever it is , it gives me a senses of peace and the only thing I can do; is enjoy every moment of it.

Although I feel so foolish about this, but I just like this dude “James”. Why can’t he just make up his mind on what he really wants?  You know that idle man you have always had dreams of where he is tall, handsome and above all, he has the fear of God; well that’s what is staring at me right now.




Some years back, I had seen him in church, he tried severally to talk to me through his charming smiles and he even tried to strike a conversation with me but back then I could not be one bit bothered about his looks, height of even when he smiled. I always looked at him as one of those church guys trying to get too familiar with me and him being a worker in church, I could not understand why he was basically into me. I simply treated him like he did not exist. Each time he waved at me, I simply waved backed and gave that half smile that could not melt a heart.

Later that year, I was posted to Port Harcourt so everything about Abuja was history. I had to make new friends, get acquainted with my new job, learn my routs around the town and find another place of worship.  Leaving in Port Harcourt was hell for me, and moving from a town where there is hardly ever traffic to a town that is highly condensed was really annoying but the pay from my new job kept me sane. The only thing I looked forward to was getting that Bank alert on the 25th of every month. It made me smile as bright as the sun.

I gradually started enjoying every moment of that stage of my life and found a boyfriend “good man” that could at least keep my nerves down, show me love and take good care of me. Am sure you are wondering why I stressed on the “good man” , laugh out loud ; when a Naija girl tells you that she has found a good man, most times what she ought to say is that she has found a man that has a fantastic job and is probably good looking. Most times she is not interested in his background, if he is violent , engaged to someone else, has lots of baby mamas, Fraudster “419”, Drug dealer and the worst of it all is if he is married.

Azuka was his name; he worked in an oil servicing company, spoilt me silly with gifts and international holidays but the worst part was his daily abuse both verbally and physically. He was so obsessed with me. He wanted to know every single detail of my life, from what I was eating, to who I was talking with, why I was not picking my call and the worst part was him noticing that another man was saying hi to me. He would rain fire and brainstorm on my life if he ever saw anything that was one bit different. I was living in hell on earth.

TO BE CONTINUED…

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