HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK

Written By: Darren Rose

                            

Getting your ex back can often times become a extreme battle. You might need to fight against other ladies that are hovering over your old relationship and old boyfriend, for that matter. Competition can get rough, and you are going to need to use some secret weapons to regain the man who once loved you sincerely. Here are some tips to get you going:

Tip #1: Start being your self again. If he is the one who broke up with you, he probably had some good reasons to do it. If cheating is out of discussion, he might have felt that you have changed to such an extent that he just could not cope with the new you anymore. So make sure you get back to your roots and start being your kind and sweet self again.

                                 

Tip #2: Think real hard of what you are going to say to him. You should probably spend some time thinking about the stuff you would like for him to hear. Do not beg, do not cry, do not act or sound desperate. Express your need to maybe have one last talk and try to sort things out. Apologize, if you think you have done something wrong or ask him what it is that he feels you did wrong. Make it clear that you are willing to change.

Tip #3: Replicate the good times you had together. From time to time, try to wear a cute outfit you just know he loved seeing you wear and invite him to go see a movie you both love. Think of a powerful memory or something that truly bonded the two of you in the past and try to reenact that memory. A lot of guys are into this kind of stuff, even though most of them hate to admit it. So creating some rather “deja-vus” should help you do the trick and climb just a little bit closer to his heart.

Tip #4: Use his words to your advantage. People tend to like to find like minded people when it comes to their spouses and friends, so if you know your ex loves to use a certain word or expression often, make sure you cleverly slip it into your conversations. He is going to subconciously think you are the right girl for him – after all, you think alike! Plus, getting a new girlfriend and creating a new bond and new memoires with her will take time, So knowing all of his secrets, hobbies, turn-ons and turn-offs is a big advantage for you.

Tip #5: Keep your first re-encounter fun and sweet. Don’t get all serious all of a sudden, don’t start to talk about the potential of your future relationship or your break up. Try to ask him out for a beer or a game of pool, invite common friends as well and play it cool. Let him see that you can still be fun and relaxed – guys really dig that.

Tip #6: Start looking gorgeous again! If you have been letting yourself go upon your breakup or a little bit before that, it might be time to do something about it. Pull out the heavy artillery, buy some sexy outfits, wear a little makeup and go get your hair done, give yourself a complete make over.

Tip #7: Gradually start to talk to him again. Text or email him or leave a Facebook comment telling him you recently went to one of his favorite hang outs or you saw his favorite musician on tour. He is going to start thinking of you and the great times you once had together. Plus, you can also take advantage of this situation and casually ask if he is doing ok. If you know an important event came up in his life, you should also inquire about that as well.

Tip #8: Think real hard – do you honestly want him back? You might grow to discover that you are simply being stubborn about your breakup and wanting to be the one who gets to the “final word”. You could be thinking of getting back with your ex as part of a revenge plan. If these are your reasons, think twice about using these tips to get him back.

Now it is time to start focusing on the last tip you’ve read and then move towards using the rest of them. You should find all of these pieces of advice to be quite useful when it comes to reaching your ex’s heart once more. If all goes well and as planned, you should be able to get him back sooner than expected. But remember, you do need to sit down and think real hard of the reasons that you would want to get back together with him. If it’s out of a silly ambition you should just move on. You would only be doing the two of you a lot of harm. If you feel like all the right reasons are fueling your goal, then go get your man back!!!

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