White dress, Cake saying “I do” in front of family and
friends. Do you see this in your near future? Is marriage a part of you and
your mans plans? If you have reached this stage of your relationship and are
certain of the feelings you have for one another it might be time to make
things official and stop beating around the bush. This is if you both want to,
of course. But there are cases when one or both partners might want to get
married, even though there are some pretty clear signs telling them they should
probably not go through with it. Here are a few indicators you should carefully
consider your future marriage…. Even possibly cancel it….
1.You are not as happy as you think you should be. And the truth is you deserve to be 100% happy with the guy
you are planning on spending the rest of your life with. So if you feel that
there is something missing, or if you feel that your partner is not the man you
should marry, it is time to sit down and do some serious thinking. Taking some
time off even though you might be engaged and soon to be married is highly
recommended in such cases. You might discover that you are only experiencing
pre-wedding jitters. Which is a normal reaction to the idea of permanently
uniting your destiny with that of someone else’s. But if you find out it’s
something more, it’s best you don’t get married, or at least postpone the
wedding until you both work through the issue at hand.
2.You are constantly trying to change one another. This is
yet another thing that should convince you that you probably ought to
reconsider the idea of marriage. If you are not satisfied with your partner’s
beliefs, desires, future plans, if you hate the way he acts in public or around
you, if you simply cannot stand the music he listens to or the movies he likes
to watch, he might not be the man for you. Remember that trying to change one
another is a huge sign that you’re not satisfied with him and he’s not
satisfied with you. Now there’s no such thing as a perfect man, so of course
there will be things about him that you’re not particularly fond of, but if
your list of things to change or improve is longer than your list of wedding
invites, it’s time to make a change.
3.You aim for different things. Maybe you want
two kids, and he doesn’t want any kids. Maybe you would like to someday move to
a different city, and he is deeply rooted where you currently live. There are
tons of other things you could disagree about, and this could eventually lead
to a nasty divorce. So make sure you work together as a whole, and you both are
aligned on where you’re going in life.
4.You don’t have much in common. Once the
physical attraction and ‘honeymoon’ period are gone, you might start to notice
that you don’t really have much in common. You don’t have the same hobbies, and
you can’t discover a great deal of common interest and passions. Being married
will include living together and sharing stuff – you won’t be dating anymore,
you won’t be seeing each other several times a week, you will eventually start
doing pretty much everything together, so make sure this time will be
enjoyable.
5.You are not doing well financially. You might be
madly in love, but if you can’t afford to support your new family and if you
are forced to constantly ask for loans to get by you should put your marriage
plans on hold. Maybe it is just a rough patch you are going through, but until
you land on your feet, it might be a good idea to delay any marriage plans you
might be thinking of. Research has shown that money
problems are the leading cause of divorce. So make sure you are financial stable
before you walk down the aisle.
6.You have opposite religious views. If you’re in
church every Sunday and he’s instead at home drinking beer and watching
football this might eventually cause some marriage problems. Any marriage
between a devout religious person and a person that doesn’t care for religion
will always be tough. It’s always wise to be sure that you and the man you plan
to marry align on religious views.
Sure pretty much all of these issues could be
resolved. He could become more involved in church, the money issues could
eventually resolve itself, you could find common hobbies to share, and you
could move someplace where both of you are happy. But, it all depends on how
much you both really want this to work. If one of you is not willing to
compromise, it might mean the end of your plans of getting married.
Source: blackloveadvice.com
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