I used to cry myself to sleep every night. I walked around my
estate feeling lifeless, numb and bored with life. I would obsess over my day,
and feel tremendous guilt and anxiety tied to my eating disorders, poor choices
in men, and misery about staying in a job I hated. I would do whatever I could
to avoid the sinking feeling that I hated my life.
Today my life is much different than the depressed girl, forever
exhausted from her tears. Today I am happy, healthy and in love with life and
with myself. The changes in my life have been important, but the real change
isn't about who I have become. I haven't become anyone I wasn't before. I just
made it a daily practice to remove the barriers that were keeping me from
expressing my true self.
Many of us are depressed, or we go through moments of feeling
stuck in life. The fastest way to remove depression and fear from our life is
to access our true and unique self. I started to reflect on the key differences
between my life today and how it was then. What I've seen is that it comes back
to my habits and daily choices.
What I learned through those experiences is that life is too short
to stay at war with ourselves, and the longer we make excuses and allow
ourselves to stay stuck in our bad habits, the shorter our lives will become. If
you were to take a mental field trip and visit your future self, the one who is
no longer struggling with the situation that is currently causing you the most
stress, what advice would he or she give you?
I asked myself this same question, and in reflection of my own
life, I can't help to wonder whether, if I'd asked these six questions several
years ago, I would have been happier sooner?
1. Are you giving more faith to your fears than your dreams?
Leaning into love is the fastest way to manifest your dream life.
Believe in yourself and the power of your dreams. Recognize that fear is a manifestation
of insecurity and worry. It does not need to control your actions. Instead lean
into love.
2. Are you settling?
Look at every area of your life -- your relationships, your
career, your financial situation, your health, your environment and identify
any areas where you are settling. Your future self wants you to take action
today to disrupt the habit of settling. You deserve better for yourself, and
you need to trust the big picture.
3. Are you listening to your body?
Your body is the greatest tool for assessing your inner happiness
and health. If you bulldoze over your feelings, you could miss the opportunity
for grace and authentic happiness. You body will tell you when you are hungry
or tired, and when it is time to relax or else get out and move and sweat.
Learning to listen to your beautiful body and accept it for its uniqueness will
help you feel more peace.
4. Are you your own best friend?
Listening to the advice of others and ignoring your own inner
guidance can keep you feeling stuck in life. Learn to trust your heart and
become your own best friend.
5. Are you accepting others, including yourself, for who they are
not who you want them to be?
Many of us try to change people, or to change things in the world
that don't fit or make sense to us. Instead of spending so much time focusing
on what is not working, turn inward and ask how you can improve yourself? Are
you being kind and compassionate to your own self? Be gentle with this process;
accepting people for who they are will help you attain lasting inner peace.
6. Are you enjoying the journey and releasing your expectations of
the destination?
The magic is in this moment; let your goals drive you, but do not
let them define you. The journey is where the fun is, so give yourself time to
be present in this moment because this moment is all we will ever have.
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