I recently got this email from someone so I decided to share it with you all. I have given her my candid advice.
However, if you have any comment, feel free to drop it for her. Am sure she
will really appreciate it.
Dear Gusty,
I have been reading your blog for quite
some time now and I really like the way you keep things simple and nice. Well I
have a bigger problem in my relationship and I need your advice on it. I really
don’t know if I should be telling you this but I know you might give me an
honest view regarding my issue.
I've been with my boyfriend for about 9
months. He isn't good in bed at all; the oral is bad he does it totally in the
wrong place. I've told him where to do it but he still doesn't, and he does it
for about 3 minutes which is nothing to a woman. He isn't a good kisser either.
I find myself dreading sex with him and getting all worked up because I know
I'm not going to get anything from it.
Most times i have to give excuses so that
I will not have sex with him. I feel awkward because I've let it go on so long
that I can't really turn around after 9 months and complain. I am in my late twenties
and he is in his thirties. We always talk about getting married. I think he seriously
wants to get married to me but this is really driving me mad. What do you think I should do? Please just be
honest with me.
HERE IS MY RESPONSE TO HER.
Hello, thank you for reading my blog, your comments are really
refreshing. Regarding your relationship issue, I just wanted to say it all depends on your communication
approach because guys have egos and if you come at him in a way he feels
insulted, this could lead to a bad breakup and you sound like you love this guy
very much. Sometimes we get nervous or afraid of consequences when it comes to
telling our partners certain things even if we have been together for "9
months".
You defiantly don't want to hurt his feeling so sit him down and discuss calmly with him say, "baby, we need to talk." He will ask you about what? Then you say "about us". Soften the blow by reassuring him that you love him and don't want to be with anyone else in the world but him ...Say it in the nicest way possible. Remember your not trying to hurt his feelings.
Say "but baby, though our sex is "ok", I'm not fully satisfied with the results.Its good, BUT it has the potential to be great IF you follow my lead... I know you like doing your thing but my body has certain needs in order to be compliantly immense and compelled by your love/sex."
You can also tell him things like “When I tell you to do or try certain things, its because its what will make my body happy”. Your a great man and I don't want to lose you but I feel we really need to work on that before we take our relationship to the next level."
You defiantly don't want to hurt his feeling so sit him down and discuss calmly with him say, "baby, we need to talk." He will ask you about what? Then you say "about us". Soften the blow by reassuring him that you love him and don't want to be with anyone else in the world but him ...Say it in the nicest way possible. Remember your not trying to hurt his feelings.
Say "but baby, though our sex is "ok", I'm not fully satisfied with the results.Its good, BUT it has the potential to be great IF you follow my lead... I know you like doing your thing but my body has certain needs in order to be compliantly immense and compelled by your love/sex."
You can also tell him things like “When I tell you to do or try certain things, its because its what will make my body happy”. Your a great man and I don't want to lose you but I feel we really need to work on that before we take our relationship to the next level."
Tell
him how you want things done. If he truly loves you am sure he will listen.
Have a lovely week ahead.
Cheers!!!
7 comments:
abegiiiii..............she done dey shock another guy.
Gusty, well said. she should just discuss with the guy.
Her boyfriend no dey try at all.............just 3mins!!!
Tell him his penis does not make you happy....
That he does not bring you to the promise land....
That your toes do not curl.....
All joking aside, if you cannot talk to him straight out about your sex life you shouldn't be thinking of getting married in the first place.
You literally have to teach him by nicely and sweetly showing him and when he does what you say tell him how crazy it makes you, be totally dramatic so he will see the benefit of doing it right
Get a few educational books out and leave them lying around
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