I THOUGHT HE WAS THE BEST; MY BOYFRIEND SLEPT WITH BEST FRIEND

By: Ada

 

Knowing Timothy was the best feeling I ever had in my entire life. I loved and trusted him so much; the moments we shared will forever linger on in my heart. I met him while I was in my 300 level while in the University. He was TALL, DARK AND HANDSOME your original ‘TDH’. When I first met him, I honestly did not want to date him due to his flashy personality and lifestyle. He had a lovely red sports car ‘TYPICAL RICH KID’, played music all the time and was so popular that it even made me so sick to my stomach.

 I can still remember when he was toasting me “making advances/ wooing” he was so bold. He would come to my department every afternoon just to see me and buy lunch for me.  Trust me, even though I did not like him then I was always broke ‘financially down’ in school and coming from a poor background, I was happy whenever someone wanted to buy lunch for me. Inside me I was always jumping with joy but on the outside I was always forming ‘pretending’.

He even made it more romantic by coming to see me in the library while reading at night. Let me not lie shaaaaaa; it was a relief taking a break from those jacking ‘reading’ moments. We will stroll down to the mini-market in search of small snacks and fruits. I enjoyed the mishai “bread and egg; burgher style” with a bottle of chilled Fanta. Most times we had to go back to his car and spend some time there. Ok, should I not have dated him? In my mind then he was simply “caring”.

Most times he even had to shop for me, especially if we had to go clubbing that weekend. I was living the dream. Before I knew it, we became an item, the “it” couple. We were simply inseparable. Least I forget our sex life was the bomb, he was the best I ever had, I can still remember how he used to scream when we made love, and at times we both cried while we made love and told each other how much we loved each other. OOOOOOHHHHH TIMOTHY CAN I EVER FIND SOMEONE LIKE YOU?

After a while, he had to move in to my room, we started doing everything together “typical campus life”, from taking our baths, to eating on the same plate. While I was washing our clothes he was rinsing and spreading them. Huuuuuum na wa!!!!! My one true love; most weekends we even had to go to the market to buy foodstuff and provisions.

He was so good in everything but I could not just hold my big mouth. Every time he did something nice or gave me anything I always told my supposedly best friend “bff” Stephanie. We both grew up together; her father’s house was not far from mine. We shared almost everything in common. I was always eager to tell her everything. I honestly thought she was indeed a good person and friend but little did I know she was a wolf in sheep clothing’s.

I can even remember giving her something’s Timothy gave me; even when she needed money I also gave her, she was indeed like a sister to me.

Then the faithful day came when I walked into my room and found Timothy on top of Stephanie ‘having sex’. My world immediately stopped. I could hardly breathe; I just could not believe what I was seeing. Hot tears rolled down my eyes. Why? LORD WHY? TIMOTHY WHAT IS HAPPENING?  It’s so hard to trust your girlfriends with your boyfriend.  At that moment, you have lost two important people in your life. Not only have you been betrayed by your boyfriend, you have also been backstabbed by your best friend. I honestly felt like an absolute fool. For how long has this been going on? So this relationship has all been a lie! Have I been living in utopia filled with useless fantasies? What do I do now?

Well, I guess I better snap out of these stupid memories. It’s all in the past now. From my experience, I have learnt to keep things about my relationship secret and not to conclude on any man until I work down the aisle in my lovely white dress and he puts a diamond ring on my finger. Timothy might have been the best then so I thought, but I think I’ve got something even someone better now. I have a fantastic job in an oil company and a good man. After that event I completely cut off from Stephanie. She tried explaining that it was all Timothy’s fault and not hers. She gave me so many reasons to believe her but trust me, each time she spoke they were all crap to me, ‘bloody liar’. I heard she lives in the North now and is married with children. Although am happy for her, but I hope she doesn't continue sleeping with men outside her matrimonial home. What a shame!!!

As for Timothy, the idiot still calls me. As a matter of fact he just sent me a text message now, what a coincidence. Some people might say; why do you still pick his calls or why did you not change your number. The truth is; life is just too small to be worried over issues that simply tear you apart. The worst part is how annoying it is when he tells me that he wants to get married to me. Although he is so successful now, I honestly cannot be bothered about his wealth. I will always see him as an impostor and a complete cheat. I will forever value peace of mind than all the riches in the world.

We all know how much it hurts to be betrayed by the very ones we love, and depend on, and despite the pain, this will leave a mark even though time will pass. I have learnt to be more aware of whom I go with, and have as a friend, in the future. I try not to let this interfere with any future relationships that i may encounter, everybody is different. Every ending comes a new beginning.